Hi friends. The holidays are coming and it is the most magical time of the year right? Maybe not for some…as a parent with children that have come via adoption I know that holidays tend to stress me out even more then everyday life. My family is often traveling, we are in new places, routines get thrown off, there are a lot of people, stress is high and suddenly that special day has become hard. This is true not only for my family but also for others with children who have entered their families via adoption. This is especially true if those children have just arrived home or if they have special needs.
Orphanage/Institutionalized care often breeds unregulated or unhealthy eating habits, promotes social awkwardness and might even teach kids the wrong ways to gain attention that they crave. Once children are in their forever homes, parents are working hard to help their children create healthy boundaries with food, social situations and appropriate feelings of love.
As the holidays are approaching and we enter busy season we have asked parents of adoptees what they wish their families knew, without having to explain in detail. The tips below are from adoptive parents that struggle with these issues at family gatherings or large social settings with friends, please keep these things in mind if your celebrating with a family in these situations.
I wish my family understood…..
1. Food Issues
Many children coming from orphanage settings have food issues. Some children are picky and eat hardly nothing, they might have their favorite foods and that is it. Please do not make them eat everything on their plate. Let their parents help them pick out food and encourage them to eat if they are picky eaters.
Other children coming from orphanage settings will likely […]