We at Project Hopeful believe in the power of prayer. And not just a little bit. We pray for things like the complete eradication of HIV in our lifetime, as we did last month. We know that we serve a mighty God who is able to do all things, in His will. So we pray, and pray a lot.
In addition to prayer, however, we also encourage adoptive parents to take advantage of the many God-given resources that are available when the difficulties of parenting children who were adopted arise. Just like we would never tell scientists to stop searching for the cure to HIV because we are praying, neither would we suggest that someone who is in the valley with their child “just pray” and fail to take advantage of the lifeboat that God may have sent to them. Last week this point was driven home for me as I was speaking to a friend of Project Hopeful. She was just finishing her first Empowered to Connect conference with Karen Purvis and was sharing some of her learnings with me. She wrote:
[Purvis] believes that the neuroplasticity of the brain makes it possible for the brain to overcome almost any prior insult with purposeful parenting. But simple prayer and love . . . will not be enough. [Purvis believes] reprogramming WILL NOT happen unless parents approach it knowing the science and how to use injured brain areas to get to ones that are currently offline. That was sobering for me. I feel a new responsibility to approach my kids mindfully, purposefully.
As I read my friend’s email, I was convicted about how often I choose to overlook warning signs that my children’s brains may be experiencing […]